Q: Help! I have feelings for my coworker, and I think he likes me too. Would it be a huge mistake to start something with him?
I’ve been there, and I’m not gonna lie—you’ve got a tricky situation on your hands. As you’ve probably guessed, dating a coworker can backfire and cause some major awkwardness at your job. But don’t freak out just yet—having a successful relationship with a coworker is still possible (I met my current boyfriend at work and still work with him)! You just need to proceed with caution.
Before you do anything, check your workplace rules. Often, dating anyone who is your supervisor, or vice-versa, is off-limits. If you both are on equal ground, it’s probably a go, but make sure to double check what the policy is wherever you work. After that, the hard part will be keeping your personal life separated from your professional life, and at first, it might suck. You’ll be tempted to hang out with him at all times, or talk about what’s going on in your relationship, and it’s hard to stay professional when he looks so freakin’ cute in his suit. But while you’ll want to get into some office shenanigans with your new guy, always put professionalism first, because you’re at work and not on a date. My rule of thumb: save smooching for later, or for the elevator.
Kidding about the elevator part. Maybe. Use your best judgment on that one…
In all seriousness, this one is your call, but be careful, babe. If you really like this guy, that’s fantastic and it can totally happen, but make sure you steer clear of anything that could put your job at risk. Whether you decide to make your office fling a thing or not, you’ll be better off having made your decision after considering your priorities and putting some serious thought into it.
Best of luck!