Note To You Little Sister

Q: Do I have to break up with him in person? It's not immature to end it over the phone, right?

Dating, Love + DatingJen

Q: I've been dating this guy for a few months, and it's so over. He doesn't really treat me well. We're supposed to met up this week to talk about it, but I just want to be done with it.  Do I have to break up with him in person? It's not immature to end it over the phone, right? 19, Northern CA

A: No, it's not immature. The way you break-up with someone depends on how important you were to each others lives. However, if he doesn't treat you well, then all bets are off anyways. You can break-up with him any damn way you want.

The days of needing to break up face to face are long gone. Sure, breaking up via text could be a little heartless (maybe), but breaking up over the phone is damn right courteous nowadays. And, if you've only been dating a few months I would venture to guess it wasn't even that serious (even if you think it was now).

It's not a sin to cut your ties and move on without all the drama associated with in person break-ups. Ugh, the crying and the fighting and the blame, who has time for it? Especially if he didn't treat you well in the first place, you don't owe him a single thing.

Look my love, you both entered into this relationship as consenting adults wanting to spend time together. If  the time has come that you no longer what to spend time with him then there's nothing wrong with saying so in the most-convenient way. Avoid the screaming match and passive aggressive bull**** and just be done.

Break-ups are not fun for anyone, but you're not doing the guy a favor by saying it to his face. It's like pulling off a Band-Aid (or a shot of Tequila), get it over quickly and go have fun.

J♥